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Writer's pictureCynthia Fortlage

Cracking the Code: Acceptance Without Understanding in 5 Steps



Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you felt like you just had to accept something, even though you didn’t understand it? Maybe it was a new family member or friend with different beliefs from yours, or perhaps it was a decision made by someone in a position of authority you disagreed with. Whatever the situation, accepting something without understanding it can be a difficult challenge.


However, acceptance without understanding is an essential part of life. It allows us to move forward and build relationships with people who are different from us. It also allows us to cope with change and uncertainty.


In this article, I will outline a 5-step process that can help you to accept something or someone without understanding it.


Step 1: Prepare for Acceptance

Before embarking on the journey of acceptance, it’s wise to prepare your mind and heart. Consider journaling your feelings, practising meditation to calm your thoughts, or seeking the support of a therapist to work through your emotions.


Step 2: Accept Yourself

The path toward accepting others or difficult circumstances begins by fully accepting ourselves. Acknowledge your limitations and potential biases. RecoRecogniset you don’t have to understand everything to proceed with acceptance.


Step 3: Seek Acceptance from Your Inner Circle

Build a solid foundation of support. Ask your loved ones to accept you as you are, even as you grapple with things you don’t fully understand. Their unconditional love will bolster your journey.


Step 4: Challenge Societal Expectations

Don’t be afraid to advocate for a more understanding society. Resist discrimination and actively work to promote acceptance within your community. Even small acts of outreach can make a difference.


Step 5: Recognise Life’s Purpose

Finding meaning and purpose can be a powerful anchor, especially amidst confusing circumstances. Explore your passions, values, and what truly gives your life significance.



True acceptance without complete understanding is a skill developed over time. These five steps provide a framework for your journey. Remember, acceptance doesn’t equal agreement. It’s about respecting the validity of other viewpoints or situations, even when understanding remains out of reach.


Which of these steps resonates most with you right now? I encourage you to reflect and begin implementing this process in your life.


Need help getting started? With over 25 years of dedicated leadership in the corporate, feminist, and LGBTQ+ realms, with a profound commitment to LGBTQ+ and women’s rights, I’m thrilled to be recognised in the British Diversity Awards. I stand ready to support, consult, educate, and advise on your next diversity challenge. Your journey towards inclusivity begins with a conversation. Reach out to me at  cynthiafortlage@cynthiafortlage.com with any inquiries.

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