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Writer's pictureCynthia Fortlage

Navigating Safety: Why I Choose When and How to Disclose My Trans+ Identity



Why don’t I mention that I’m trans on my LinkedIn profile? The answer is the same reason I disclose my identity quickly when meeting people in person: safety.


In both online and offline spaces, I need to ensure that I won’t be attacked, excluded, or targeted simply because I am a woman with a trans+ history. The internet can feel unsafe, filled with keyboard warriors who might challenge my identity. I recognise that most, if not all, of these individuals haven’t done the necessary homework and those who have often choose to ignore the science. I decided not to make my identity a focal point here to maintain professionalism and focus on my work.


When I’m out in public, I never assume I “pass.” On a cold winter’s day, wrapped in an overcoat, perhaps no one notices. But when my history might be more visible in a summer top, I prefer to declare my identity. This allows me to control the situation and assess my safety proactively rather than reacting after being outed. I’ve left spaces where I didn’t feel safe—sometimes because of people, other times due to situations that posed a risk.


This approach also extends to dating and job applications. I’m upfront about being trans+ because I don’t want to be in spaces where my identity might be offensive or unwelcome. When applying for jobs, I’d instead work for an organisation that doesn’t view my identity as a detractor or even relevant to the role. This contrasts with my work as a consultant, where, for some, I may be the first openly trans+ person they or their workplace have encountered. In these instances, I understand that my presence is part of the necessary work of creating awareness, which may not be required of me as an employee.


The peace I’ve cultivated in my life is precious to me—a form of self-care I fiercely protect.


As an advocate, not an activist, my work often happens behind the scenes, creating safe spaces for everyone. While the idea of taking bold, public stands for incremental change is compelling, my strengths lie in fostering inclusion in quieter yet equally impactful ways. I leave the front-line activism to those with skills best suited to that work.

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