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Acceptance is Aspirational

Let's begin by understanding what does aspirational means.

An aspirational goal defies logic in many ways in that you can't see a specific path to achieving the goal when you set it. ... You're not sure when, or if, you will attain the goal or not. You just know that it is vital to you, and you want to find a way to bring it into your life over time.
- Google search

Being aspirational is a truth of one of my foundational theories that of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. I have told you about this theory a lot over the past four years, and I now see alignment to Acceptance without Understanding™

The theory is as follows:

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a motivational theory in psychology, comprising a five-tier model of human needs, often depicted as hierarchical levels within a pyramid. ... From the bottom of the hierarchy upwards, the requirements are physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem, and self-actualization.
- Psychology today

As I have come to understand it, the top of the pyramid known as Self Actualization is an aspirational goal. In other words, we are continually growing but never actually get there, i.e., the reason it is aspirational.

The meaning of self-actualization for those that may not be aware of is;

Self-actualized people are those who are fulfilled and doing all they are capable of. It refers to the person's desire for self-fulfillment, namely, to the tendency for her to become actualized in what she is potential.
- Wikipedia

So now you have that understanding, let's look at it from the perspective of acceptance.

I admit that I struggle to accept somethings; I am human, after all. I have emotions, beliefs, values that I care deeply about. We become invested in the aspects that define us, and when those aspects get challenged, we become defensive. This defensive position is healthy and an amygdala response of fight, flight, or freeze.

When you feel threatened and afraid, the amygdala automatically activates the fight-or-flight response by sending out signals to release stress hormones that prepare your body to fight or run away. This response is triggered by emotions like fear, anxiety, aggression, and anger.
- Healthline.com

Naturally, we respond in a primal way, if you prepare in advance of a problem that may trigger your fear, anxiety or doubt that causes your amygdala to activate you can then program a different response, a response of acceptance.

That is what I coach others to do is to learn to use a filter of acceptance to step back and look at issues differently.

This secret behind Acceptance without Understanding™ gets integrated through coaching. To live your life in a way that leads to an experience where you awaken your authentic Self. Preparing yourself quiets the amygdala response, which is the caveman response because it's primitive and straightforward. Our more advanced understanding of the brain allows us to inject programming that overrides those primitive responses.

You already inject different programming if you have had these experiences;

  • Understanding office politics to know when to do or say something particular at the right moment.

  • In social situations, you grasp the pecking order of individuals and use relationships with the right person to advance your social standing

  • You choose situations, organizations, events, relationships to raise your social standing with those you wish to be associated with rather than those of your current social status.

All of these situations are a desire to advance yourself, and you use a higher cognitive state to make decisions, responses, and say the right things to accomplish your goals.

When these goals are materialistic, you will not advance towards self-actualization.

Material items are finite in their goal and personal satisfaction. This limited satisfaction is why we become a society based on consumption. We have been taught this behaviour by advertisers, manufacturers and community in general to consume the latest and greatest. Even if you aren't perpetually following that stream, you have succumbed to it at some point.

I do with Apple products as I enjoy using them in my digital nomadic lifestyle.

You do not need to become a digital nomad to follow this philosophy. You simply want to cherish the thing most important in life, and that is human relationships and respecting others.

Doing these things and using that to accomplish your goals, you are more in alignment with all of you, which I have defined before—your Physical, Cognitive, Emotional, and Spiritual Self.

Living your life in alignment and using an acceptance without understanding approach teaches us to preprogram our responses to meet more basic needs in Maslow's hierarchy that are both self-fulfilling and fulfilling to others that we engage.

That is why I call it a human-centric approach to life.

A human-centric approach is not for everyone, as not everyone is ready to accept!

If you are open to hearing this message? You grasp the complexities of life and want a better way to succeed, you don't feel in alignment and want to be in your personal and professional life, you think that aspects of life become soul-sucking and you want a better way.

I offer those of you who desire more from life in an authentic way to awaken your awareness and set up your complimentary 30-minute introductory session. You may walk away with a nugget of knowledge for your time.


Con Amor Y Abrazos de Colombia

Cynthia


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